15 Apr

I don't enjoy unsolicited advice.

06:00

Hello all, Simon here, I trust that you are having the best time that you possibly can have.

Me at the moment, I'm not having a good time. Somebody asked me yesterday at the coffee shop, how are you Simon? In the past I would be fine, now I'm like hey, where would we start?

So the reason why I'm doing these, what I call little voice notes, like a podcast, not a podcast, because I have got a podcast, is because I realised that for me, it can be therapeutic to share, insert whichever word you require, authentic, openness, transparency, all of these type of words.

I find it therapeutic to get things off my chest, speak up, especially when it comes to managing mental illness, mental health problems, neurodiversity, being on the spectrum which is the route that it seems that certain professionals are going with me.

Now however, four weeks ago, I think it is now, I was re-diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, oh yes, I was really shocked about that. So I'm going to share these little voice notes, because I believe it may help some people understand when they actually hear a voice rather than a written word.

know that I can often be very dry and sarcastic, and sometimes silly, it's all signs and natures of my character, which I'm not going to change.

Sometimes it can be offensive to people, oh well, gosh, I've been offended most of my life and not that much offends me nowadays, because I can choose to accept certain things or I can choose to think, well, that's up to them, isn't it, whatever, and continue on. By the way, I don't have to scroll past as lots of people seem to suggest as the answer to everything that you don't like, oh, you can scroll past, no, I can disagree and not be abusive.

People can disagree with me and say, I disagree with you, Simon, actually, I believe that there's learning to be had there. When it becomes abusive and silly and finger-pointing and names and calling people silly things, not so cool.

Anyway, I want to clarify, I know a number of people maybe believe wrongly that me sharing transparently about mental health, mental illness, the symptoms that I manage every single day, is some kind of reasoning for people to rescue me, like I'm actually, they believe that I require rescuing, or they believe that sharing something is asking for something.

Now I'm big on language, and if you read what I say, rarely will it ever say, I'm asking for your advice or support. With respect, I have professionals, I have currently a social worker, a support worker, a mental health nurse, a psychiatrist, a doctor, and other people who I can go to. I then have trusted friends, so I'm probably not going to be asking advice from people who I don't know.

Some people might be a bit but thurt by that, and that's for you to deal with in your own life, and not me, because I do not go out there and see a post and randomly give advice if the person hasn't asked.

I think it's pretty clear, isn't it? If the person hasn't asked for advice specifically, like, what are your thoughts about this? Can anybody help me? I'd like your advice. What do you think about this? Well, them people probably would be best not saying, oh, I don't want to hear that, because they've asked. I'm not asking.

I do not want or require unsolicited advice, rescue programs, Tony Robbins wannabes, or Mel Robbins, or any other life coaching motivational person, because I've been one of those people, and I've been a coach, and I can mostly motivate myself.

Thank you very much. I'm actually pretty good at doing that. That's probably why I've run 127 marathons and auto marathons, because I can motivate myself. Sometimes, I want to let it all out. I want to speak up about certain things, so please don't misconstrue.

Please listen to people. Ask questions. Ask, can I support you, Simon? What support would help you, Simon? Can I offer something to you, Simon? And what I'm saying is maybe seek permission, maybe ask.

I know a lot of people on the old tinternet, internet, believe that because they have access means that you can say what you want. Well, probably on my page, you can say what you want. Also, you don't have to reply to you. I can block you, I can remove you, I can ignore you.

And I will go to the people who I trust or I believe are in a similar place, or again, go to professionals who I can ask these questions because they're paid to listen to me. And they can give me a professional answer. If I require people's advice, I will surely ask and I will be very clear to say, I would like your advice.

Other than that, hey, you can applaud me, you can thank me, you can reply and say, well done. However, please do not be giving me the old unsolicited advice. Anyway, until next time, there will be a next time.

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